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Friday, March 05, 2004

WHEN LOVE HURTS

This is a subject that I have not personally experienced myself, but I know of a few people that have.
It is a growing problem that affects both men and women, although their experiences may vary.
By now I would have hopefully piped your interest in the topic I'll be writing about this week.

The topic matter of this week is... Abusive Relationships.

Dating violence is similar to that of marital abuse in the sense that the same patterns of control and power are at work.
By abusive relationships I don't just mean physical abuse alone it can be emotional and psychological as well.
The definition of dating violence is, "repeated verbal, emotional, physical or sexual abuse used to frighten, hurt and control a boyfriend/girlfriend."


I have heard a lot recently about guys hitting girls for no reason that could warrant such behaviour; I personally feel that it is deplorable on every single level.
Here are a few statistics about abuse: -

34% of the female murder victims over the age of 15 are killed by their husbands, ex-husbands, or boyfriends.

11% of the men but only 5% of the women said their current partner had committed acts of violence towards them, ranging from pushing, through hitting, to stabbing.

One in three females will experience abuse at the hands of her boyfriend before adulthood.

By now you should be able to tell what my stand point on abusive relationships are.
What gets my goat just as much is, women that abuse men knowing full well that they will not retaliate with violence.
The issue of abuse can be very complicated and is to deep for me to get into and to do it real justice so as an alternative I'll give a quick low down instead providing the relevant links that will be able to address your concerns and answer all your questions.
Don't ever say that I don't do anything for you.

Like everything in life there are always tell tell signs so here are a few to watch out for:-

If he/she's been in a violent relationship before. Abusive men/women rarely change.
Don't make the mistake of thinking 'it will be different with me - he/she didn't treat him/her right'.

He/she puts your friends down and / or makes it difficult for you to see them.

He/she loses his/her temper over trivial things.

He/she criticizes you all the time - about your weight, your hair, your clothes, etc.

He/she makes all the decisions in your relationship and ignores your needs or dismisses them as unimportant.

Feel you could be in an abusive relationship? Go to www.dvirc.org.au/whenlove/checklist.htm
and take the free quiz
Always remember that you are not alone. There are plenty of support groups ready to listen to you.
I hope this has been helpful, and will give you the strength to get out of an unhealthy relationship or stay clear of one.
www.recovery-man.com/abusive/abusive.htm
www.teenshealth.org/teen/your_mind/relationships/abuse.html
www.sheridanhill.com/battered.html

Remember TRUTH is a right not a privilege

Monday, March 01, 2004

DYING FOR A DRINK

As students we should all be aware of the dangers we face when going out as not all dangers are going to be presented to us with a red flashing light.
I know that on a night out with the girls accepting drinks from strangers can seem like harmless fun but we do not know the motives behind what seems like an innocent offer.
Yes the topic that I am referring to is ‘date rape’

In recent news there has been a significant increase in the amount of reported drug assisted rape cases. This is not an issue that only effects women it also effects men as well, 10-15% of rapes reported were made by men that is 750 cases.
There are two types of date rape drugs that are commonly used GHB, which, most people would know as ‘Liquid Ecstasy’ or its partner in crime Rohynol more commonly known as ‘Roofies’

The drugs produce a sedative effect, amnesia, muscle relaxation, and a slowing of psychomotor responses. Sedation occurs 20-30 minutes after administration and lasts for several hours.
In order to reduce the risk of falling prey to date rape there are precautions that we can take.
They might seem obvious but many have fallen victim due to showing lack of caution.

v Being wary about accepting drinks from anyone you don't know well. If you are accepting a drink, make sure it's from an unopened container that you can open yourself.
v Don't put your drink down and leave it unattended even to go to the restroom, if you do make sure you do not drink from it again.
v Notify other females and males you know about the effects of this dangerous drug.

If you think that you have been a victim, notify the authorities immediately.
For more information visit the following Website that are provided via the links.
teenadvice.about.com/cs/daterape
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